Democratic underground page 552 in the aa big book. From it stem all forms of spiritual disease, for we have been not only mentally and physically ill, we have been spiritually sick. As lifej so aptly points out in his november 23, 2017 article, standing on the shoulders of giants. Resentment 64, 84, 552 responsibility 564 ridicule, spiritual 68 risks 7680 self pity 61, 62, 84 self will. He said, in effect if you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing.
Chris raymer, aa big book, ca speaker, talk about carrying the message to the addict that still suffers hear renowned addiction speaker, mark houston from texas, a recovered alcoholicaddict, speak on 12 step spirituality living in the spirit. When the spiritual malady is overcome, we straighten out mentally and physically. Resentment is the number one offender resentment destroys more alcoholics than anything else. Twelve steps to live without resentment hazelden betty ford. Do it every day for two weeks, and you will find you have come to mean it and to want it for them, and you will realize that where you used to feel bitterness and resentment and hatred, you now feel compassionate understanding and love. Click on the links below to listen to the big book fourth edition spoken version online. If you still have problems, then read pages 551 552 of the big book. Our origins are the students of the big book group, which has met in woodland hills, california since december of 1985. Article from friendofbillandbob big book on resentments. Feel foolish it is sometimes enough just to become aware that you are the one being hurt by the resentment, and that often the resented person doesnt even know how you feel. The big book alcoholics anonymous online front stuff the big book. From an aa members story, freedom from bondage page 552 of the big book. If you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself to be given to them, you will be free. Critique of chapter 5 of the big book step 4 aa agnostica.
Big book personal stories part iii they lost nearly all. That page may have saved my sobriety andor my life. Sorting and rendering passages in the proprietary format of the 164 and more concordance does not in any way imply affiliation with or endorsement by either alcoholics. We are given tools to do this through a close and inquiring reading of step 4 in the big book. Big book aa page 552 keyword found websites listing. Some resentments are so deepseated they require special attention 2. Resentment prayers alcoholics anonymous district 21 22. Step four prayer freedom from resentment step 4 of the. I can watch my serenity level rise when i discard my expectations. Someone was having a problem with resentment in the meeting this morning in stepchat, and i told them to read this as i was told to and it helped me.
Resentment in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps and. Make a lot of copies of the resentment forms, fewer copies of the fear forms, and fewer still of the sex conduct forms. Page 552, 4th edition someone was having a problem with resentment in the meeting this morning in stepchat, and i told them to read this as i was to. Driven by a hundred forms of fear, selfdelusion, selfseeking, and selfpity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate. So i figured i would post it here so i have it handy. Aa recognizes that resentment is toxic to our inner lives. Twelve steps to live without resentment hazelden betty.
But one that the women in our group said has worked consistently is the resentment prayer. When i am disturbed, it is because i find some person, place, thing, or situationsome fact of my life unacceptable to me, and i can find no serenity until i accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Mar 18, 2012 from page 417 of the big book of alcoholics anonymous and acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. Resentments sheet definitions of terms used in column 3. Page 552 in the big book gives a very specific answer to this question and in all my years in the program, i have yet to see it fail if done diligently if you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing that you resent, you will be free. This diagram, with three columns is just the starting point. My serenity is inversely proportional to my expectations. They prove to almost anyones satisfaction that its never too late to try alcoholics anonymous. If you have resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or thing that you resent, you will be free. Big book prayers aa alcoholics anonymous district 17 pa. These instructions are for the below prayer big book, freedom from bondage, p. On page 552 of the big book of alcoholics anonymous their basic text, there is a very helpful suggestion on how to rid yourself of resentments towards a person. Oct 1, 2016 on page 552 of the big book of alcoholics anonymous their basic text, there is a very helpful suggestion on how to rid yourself of resentments. Write write about one or more resentments or about your reflections on the readings.
Big book acceptance is the answer to all of my problems today. We are the big book bunch group of alcoholics anonymous. The story is titled freedom from bondage i have the 3rd edition of the aa big book. Resentment in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps and 12. That passage talks about praying for the persons who have done you harm to have everything you want out of life. Jan 20, 2010 pages 65 and 66 the stories we shared played out just like that. Big book spiritual experience pg 567 spiritual experience the terms spiritual experience and spiritual awakening are used many times in this book which, upon careful reading, shows that the personality change sufficient to bring about recovery from alcoholism has manifested itself among us in many different forms. Driven by a hundred forms of fear, selfdelusion, selfseeking, and self.
According to the writer of that big book chapter, they had held a deep resentment towards someone. I mentioned on my recent radio show the healing power of prayer that i would post the big books resentment prayer. But if we want to recover from alcoholism, the big book. Home read the big book and twelve steps and twelve traditions alcoholics anonymous alcoholics anonymous this is the fourth edition of the big book, the basic text for alcoholics anonymous.
When i am disturbed, it is because i find some person, place, thing or situation some fact of my life unacceptable to me, and i can find no serenity until i accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at. On page 65 of the big book there is a diagram containing examples of several resentments. Jun 08, 2010 the resentment prayer is located at the end of a personal story in the back of the big book. The story of how many thousands of men and women have recovered from alcoholism given the title the big book or aa the big book, out of affection, by its readers has been one of the most influential pieces of literature that have helped countless souls to get out of the vicious cycle of drug addiction. And remember that many forms of addiction left unchecked are fatal.
Resentment prayer page 552 of the big book youtube. The higher my expectations of other people are, the lower is my serenity. If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person. If you have a resentment you want to be free of if you will pray for the person or thing and your resentment will be free 4. Big book awakening 4th step workshop resentment examples and worksheets 122006 columns 14 to download the most current versions of these worksheets go to. If you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself to be given to them, you will be free ask for their health, their prosperity, then. If you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself to be given to them, you will be freeeven when you dont really want it for them, and your prayers are only words and you dont mean it, go ahead and do it anyway. My resentments my character defects resentment prayer on page. Read read of step 4 resentments in the big book the final 4 paragraphs, pp.
It is sometimes enough just to become aware that you are the one being hurt by the resentment, and that often the resented person doesnt even know how you feel. Someone was having a problem with resentment in the meeting this morning in stepchat, and i told them to. If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing that you resent, you will be free. Selfesteem security ambitions realationships sex relations pride selfish dishonest selfseeking frightened thy will be done. The big books way to be rid of resentment pages 63 67. Big book index page aa origin xvxvii aa organization xix, 565 aa program summary 164 acceptance 416420 agnostics 4457 alcoholic xxivxxvii alcoholism 3043 amends 7684 anger 6467 anonymity 565, 566 authority 563 boredom 152, 275 care 152 character defects 6471, 76 commitment 60. On page 552 of the big book of alcoholics anonymous their basic text, there is a very helpful. Page 552 aa big book keyword found websites listing. Section 7 step four 4th step guide pages out of the big book awakening 12 step workbook book version august, 2006. Learning the process of overcoming resentment literally saves the lives of people who are afflicted with the disease of alcoholism. Defining the word resentment resentere means to feel again, specifically feeling angry. Story freedom from bondage shows us how to get rid of these deepseated resentments p 551 552 3. You can search the alcoholics anonymous big book for phrases, key words, etc.
Relationships relations with or toward other people. Also, what page is the resentment prayer in big book. And then, they referred me to page 552 of the big book. Prayers from the big book of alcoholics anonymous big. What page is the acceptance prayer in the big book. He said, in effect if you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing that you resent, you will be free. Aug 24, 2014 the page 552 prayer to end resentments. Step four prayer freedom from resentment step 4 of the 12. Big book index page aa origin xvxvii aa organization xix, 565 aa program summary 164 acceptance 416420 agnostics 4457 alcoholic xxivxxvii. But then my rights try to move in, and they, too, can force my serenity level down. A wonderful friend helped me to realize that i had a resentment. Inventory process instruction according to the big book.
Audio version of the big book, alcoholics anonymous. Core character defects 4 study from the bottom of page 63 to the end of page 65 and then follow its instructions. Page 67 of the book, alcoholics anonymous, states, resentment is the number one offender. How it works in alcoholics anonymous, 4th edition, p. How is resentment a symptom of it and the number one offender. Our step 4 turnaround is returning us to our proper orientation, back from our isolation. We talked about the tools that helped us get over our resentments. I didnt find any reference in the big book to breaking legs as an answer to any problem, so i talked to my a. Thats the way my drinking began, as a way to make the pain go away. A suggestion of this method appears in the story freedom from bondage in the big book p. Prayers from the big book of alcoholics anonymous i earnestly advise every alcoholic to read this book through, and though perhaps he came to scoff, he may remain to pray. Oct 1, 2016 on page 552 of the big book of alcoholics anonymous their basic text, there is a very helpful suggestion on how to rid yourself of resentments towards a person. When i am disturbed, it is because i find some person, place, thing or situation some fact of my life unacceptable to me, and i can find no serenity until i accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. If you have resentment that you want to be free of, pray.
Big book, page 552 this has been posted courtesty of. Mar 22, 2018 an unexamined life is not worth living. God, please help me to be free of anger and to see that the world and its people have dominated me. When these crop up, we ask god at once to remove them.
In the context of the big book, dishonest doesnt just mean telling a. Whatever our protestations, are not most of us concerned with ourselves, our resentments, or our selfpity. These instructions are for the above prayer big book, freedom from bondage, p. To illustrate how we proceed, we will deal with a fictitious example. If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or. The big book s way to be rid of resentment pages 63 67 instructions. They state in the big book on page 552 the following quote. A person mired in resentment has scant chances of recovering from addiction. Big book personal stories part iii they lost nearly. Chances are you want to be serene, you want to be happy. Big book spiritual experience pg 567 recovery farmhouse. If you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself to. Thank you god for your help and strength with this resentment.
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